To my friend Mardie

What does it mean when a man says "It's too late to a woman? Isn't it unusual for a man to say that to his girl? Well for me, it doesn't matter who'd say that – if it's the girl or the boy. It is his or her prerogative. Is he telling his woman that he has given up hope?

Sounds like that, doesn't it? Well, apparently it does have such a connotation. And when a man says it's too late, in a general sense, you can take the words literally - meaning it is too late.

Usually a response to certain action, word or behavior by his partner, when these 3 words come out from your man's mouth, to conclude that the death sentence has been given seems too harsh and extreme, but it may indeed reflect his intentions, especially if the circumstances are grave enough.

How then can you, as a girlfriend, turn the situation around when he says It's too late? In response to you asking a question or saying something that once used to matter a lot to him but no longer is?

Well, it depends on how much this person and this relationship means to you. It's still not too late, if his heart is not with someone else.

All it means is you have to really spend a lot of effort to make his open up again, and to share with you what he really feels. Usually, it is not the words he say that is the problem.

Listen hard to what he says. Listen harder to what he is not saying. And the only way to find out is by asking him, gently. You may need to probe many times before he's willing to tell you, especially if he has been attempting to show his love to you for thousands of times and not getting any reciprocal attention. How to ask him so you can find out the real answer? Well, you must appeal to his emotions and feelings.

Men also need to feel secured, loved and appreciated. By taking care of his feelings first before your own needs, you can be sure that he will reciprocate much much more to your needs and give you even more freedom than you can ever imagine.

Like I said, it's never too late if he is not in love with someone else. All it takes is lots of patience and love on your side to let him know he is still the one you love the most and he is the most important person in your life... Good luck and God bless you girl :-)muaaah