HOW TO COPE IF YOU'RE STILL IN LOVE WITH YOUR "EX"

As the song says: “Goodbye's the saddest word I'll ever hear. Goodbye's the last time I will hold you near. It'll break my heart to hear you say goodbye...” Though the truth really devastates you, still you need to be strong and let the situation be... Here, put yourself in the opposite side: If YOU didn’t want to be with someone, and let him know it, what would you expect the other person to do? Hopefully to let go, and move forward with dignity...

The biggest “cure all” every time you miss him, or thinking about him with sadness, is to vividly remember the times he treated you like DIRT, and ask yourself: “Is THAT what I REALLY WANT?” When the answer is NO – then keep that in your mind. It will replace the old pattern of putting him on a pedestal when he treated you far less than the way you deserved. It will also help you to replace the pain with the truth of the situation.

Every time thoughts about him suddenly come into your mind, do the above, AND re-direct your focus on to something that is positive and life enhancing for YOU, or others that you love. You have the power to consciously re-direct your thoughts and FOCUS. Do that every time the blues start to creep in to your consciousness.

Really TRUST that everything DOES work out for the best in the long run, and if you can remember a time when you were sad about something, only to be grateful for the growth you’ve made, and how the situation worked out for your highest and best after all, this will help you realize that this situation is no different.

View the other person with compassion, rather than with bitterness. Realize that he did the best he were capable of, and if his best was not in your best interest, then it is a gift that they are out of your life

Get deeply and passionately absorbed in your life purpose! THIS is the most powerful thing you can do! Why waste your energy, focus, and attention on a PAST situation, when you can really be making significant and positive difference in your life, as well as in the lives of others!

Every time you start to think about him, and begin to play your drama of the past in your mind, consciously CHOOSE to focus on the NOW, and all of the great things you can be doing. Focus on being and expressing your highest and best self. Remember that you don’t NEED him at all. YOU are the gift. He may be a gift as well, however, if he was out of your life, your life MUST carry on in the most vibrant, positive and life-renewing manner possible. This is ALL within your conscious choice and control.

Really thank him (in your mind) for every lesson you have learned, every new discovery you have made, and the difference he DID make in your life. Realize that THAT was his purpose for entering your life. So now you can release him with a lot of gratitude, loving compassion, dignity, and grace.

For me, this is the best quote (from a forwarded text message) to say: “If someone leaves you, don't dare cry for him. Instead, be happy. Pero bago mo siya palayain, ibulong mo muna sa kanya “gwapa ko d0ng, hubag pa jud...” Pasalamat ka, nagka UYAB ta.” haha... Funny but it's true di ba?

Well, the thought there, is - so that YOU can be FREE FROM PAIN, and misery! So that you can attract someone into your life that will treat you incredibly well, and because you DESERVE to be happy in a real relationship!

Why should you hold out for crumbs from someone similar to a dog waiting on the doormat for a couple of crumbs of attention? Don’t you really deserve to have a fantastic relationship? YES! You do! Everyone does. If you are in pain the majority of the time, then you deserve to free yourself, so that you can live with inner peace, and grow with enough self-love to attract your true counterpart.

You can only attract according to what you believe you deserve, and I swear to you that you WILL attract someone that is far healthier for you once you really learn how to love and appreciate yourself.

Don’t you want to be treated in the best manner possible? So if you are in pain most of the time, that pain is saying: “Hey, get me out of this, because IT HURTS!” And the only way to remove yourself from the source of emotional agony in your life is to make a COMPLETE break.

Lastly, have to set in mind the cycle of loving: Love and Get Hurts, Get Hurts and Leavin', Learn and Love Again!!!